Perspectives of a Lady, Gentleman & Dane

Monthly Archive:: February 2015

Hannah Sheflyand

I think this is pretty common for northeasterners, but I am finally coming down with the blues. When it first starts getting colder in the fall I just look forward to Thanksgiving and then the holidays in December which makes time go by pretty quickly and the never ending cold and shorter days go unnoticed. Then January hits and every year I do my best to stay cheery. Getting engaged and starting on wedding planning helped this January fly by but February hit me hard.

I went to the blog world to find some solutions and overall it has helped a lot. I would love to share some of the tips and tricks that have helped me:

Playing Set (I am addicted and now even play on my phone)

Relaxing with some special hot chocolate

Some spa time in the shower

Basking in the glow of a Mood Light

Exercise! (If your not in the mood for anything intense, even some calm yoga breathing will make you feel 10x better)

Go out on a special date (Its Restaurant Week in NYC!)

Light up the room

My favorite: Bake and then bakesomemore (it will also warm up your apartment)!

How about you, what are some of your tips and tricks for getting through the winter?

Hannah Sheflyand

Did you watch the Oscars last night? We dont have cable, or even a tv, so I missed out but had been following as much as I could online. I was mesmerized by the performance with John Legend and Common. This song won Best Original Song and it is evident why.

Did you have a chance to watch this year? What did you think of all the musical performances?

My other favorites were Everything is Awesome by Tegan & Sara and then Lost Stars by Maroon 5.

Hannah Sheflyand

Do you feel like all of your interactions with friends and family have become a bunch of texts and emails? I did not even notice it until recently when I started needing help with wedding planning. Texts are great for quick messages or little reminders but I have started to really enjoy spending even just a few minutes catching up on the phone. I was enjoying these conversations more and more that I started looking into getting myself a little stationary so I can start writing letters and show those that are most important to me that I took the extra effort to write a note to them.

Then Brian and I started looking for wedding stationary and wow was I blown away by everything out there. I am pretty happy that both of us wanted to go with something fairly simple so picking the stationary went quickly and smoothly. However for myself the options are limitless and I cant decide.

Garden & Gun wrote a great article on the etiquette of stationary for both him and her and what should be sitting on your desk. I thought it was a great starter to help figure out what I should order for me, and maybe Brian too 🙂 Read more…

Hannah Sheflyand

Do any of you get tired of the constant email and facebook feeds filled with cute puppies and kittens? Sometimes the photos are a great little surprise and definitely cheer up the bored gloomy day causing me to be online browsing randomly rather then doing actual work. Sometimes its just too much and I wish there was something new to look at to cheer me up.

Then I came across Kevin Horan’s photography website, specifically his Chattel series. This photo series, of goats and sheep, is a remembrance of studio portraits back in the day, black and white with a gloomy serious tone.


Lela #1

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Hannah Sheflyand

How did your weekend go? I was sick through the whole thing and still sick, so I am huddled in bed drinking lots of hot tea hoping I heal quick.

I was really excited that after just posting about Jason Isbell, his wife and him just released a two single ep “Sea Songs“. I am in love all over. Take a listen and let me know what you think.

Have a happy healthy week 🙂


Hannah Sheflyand

I used to find Valentines day to be a drag and disliked the over priced consumerism (flowers double in price overnight)…. but I think I have become pretty romantic over time and now just relish that there is an extra occasion to spend time with loved ones. I hope your weekend goes smoothly whether you are on your own or not. Tonight, Brian and I are joining my parents to head to Brooklyn Fare Chef’s Table (which I am super duper excited about- have you ever been?), but I am also pretty under the weather so I am hoping the rest of the weekend requires no effort and instead lots of cuddle time and hot tea.

Some fun, love filled links from around the web to help keep you cheery this weekend:

A list of movies to binge watch

Easy desserts that are under 100 calories!

Great southern romance stories

Wish one of these cutedog dads would be my valentine

Some extra eye candy 😉

A defense for Valentines day

What are your plans for the weekend?

Hannah Sheflyand

Over the winter holidays I decided to read the 5 Love Languages (men’s version here) and had a little bit of mixed emotions over it. Have you heard about this book and the essential languages of love?

Words of Affirmation

Acts of Service

Receiving Gifts

Physical Touch

Quality Time

The idea is that there are many ways to express love to the other partner but usually each person has a primary love language that needs to be addressed to feel loved. Each person then has a “love tank” that needs to be filled with that love language.  It was quick to figure out our primary languages, mine for sure is Quality Time, Brian’s is definitely Physical Touch. Now whenever we have a long day at work and get home we kid around asking whether either Love Tank is full or needs some pumping 🙂
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Hannah Sheflyand

I can admit that I am awful with DIY projects; I love getting gifts and I love giving gifts, but I have no imagination and have very little patience for creating personal gifts for others. Luckily it is super easy to find amazing ideas and projects for gifts online 🙂

If I had any artistic skills I would love to work on one of these projects:

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Hannah Sheflyand

Being its the week of romance and love, lets talk about sex… more specifically bdsm and porn.

I was unsure if it would be a proper topic to discuss but I feel bdsm and porn has become less taboo for the everyday couple and that in my opinion is an awesome thing. I remember that going through college sex was an every day topic and no one was ashamed to discuss it at all; everything from hook ups, awkward positions, and silly laughable experiences were discussed over dinner, drinks or unproductive study sessions. Now as time has passed and relationships have become more serious, these conversations have almost come to a stand still. Is it because we feel too mature, too awkward because we know the friends partner, we have learned it all and there is nothing to discuss, or just embarrassment?

There has always been the option of secretly reading erotic romance novels, but once 50 Shades of Grey came out, things have changed. Yes its fake, yes there are many other books and writers that do a better job with writing this genre (some great suggestions here, here & here), but the topic of bdsm has been on New York Times best seller list for over 100 weeks and now will be on the big screen this weekend.

I understand that many feel porn is not proper, as a career for those in it (but don’t forget those who have risen from it such as David Duchovny or Sibel Kekilli) or for those watching it (which lets be honest everyone has at least taken a glance). I think this progress, in the media and through the general public, will help change that or at least get people opening up and keeping discussions going.

New York City is joining in on this new openness on sex and will be having their first ever Porn Film Festival later this month, “committed to bringing the best and most diverse body of work to NYC as a platform for both established and emerging talent.” The premier night will include Miley Cyrus’ short film (a snip below) and Tila Tequila’s sex tape.

How do you feel about this topic? How open are you about your sex life with friends?

Hannah Sheflyand

Sorry for the big delays between posts, it has been a crazy time since New Years. I am hoping over the next few weeks things will calm down and I will be able to work more on this blog. I really enjoy it, as its a way for me to be always learning something new, and it is a great way to focus and relax.

Since Valentines day is so close I thought it would be fun to have the week focus on flowers, gifts and just overall love, whether for others or just for yourself. Over the weekend Brian and I were really excited to be able to see Jason Isbell in concert in New York (he is one of our favorite country/rock singers and I have written many posts for Music Monday on him because I just love love love his songs). We were extra lucky because Jason Isbell’s wife, Amanda Shires, came to join on stage for a few duets. Both of them were as amazing live, as I thought they would be, but by far the favorite through the whole audience was Cover Me Up and I thought it was perfect for a love filled week.

Did you have a listen? Does this song not send goosebumps up your arms?

How was your weekend? Excited for Valentines day or dreading the whole thing and excited for the week to be over?