Perspectives of a Lady, Gentleman & Dane

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Hannah Sheflyand

Being its the week of romance and love, lets talk about sex… more specifically bdsm and porn.

I was unsure if it would be a proper topic to discuss but I feel bdsm and porn has become less taboo for the everyday couple and that in my opinion is an awesome thing. I remember that going through college sex was an every day topic and no one was ashamed to discuss it at all; everything from hook ups, awkward positions, and silly laughable experiences were discussed over dinner, drinks or unproductive study sessions. Now as time has passed and relationships have become more serious, these conversations have almost come to a stand still. Is it because we feel too mature, too awkward because we know the friends partner, we have learned it all and there is nothing to discuss, or just embarrassment?

There has always been the option of secretly reading erotic romance novels, but once 50 Shades of Grey came out, things have changed. Yes its fake, yes there are many other books and writers that do a better job with writing this genre (some great suggestions here, here & here), but the topic of bdsm has been on New York Times best seller list for over 100 weeks and now will be on the big screen this weekend.

I understand that many feel porn is not proper, as a career for those in it (but don’t forget those who have risen from it such as David Duchovny or Sibel Kekilli) or for those watching it (which lets be honest everyone has at least taken a glance). I think this progress, in the media and through the general public, will help change that or at least get people opening up and keeping discussions going.

New York City is joining in on this new openness on sex and will be having their first ever Porn Film Festival later this month, “committed to bringing the best and most diverse body of work to NYC as a platform for both established and emerging talent.” The premier night will include Miley Cyrus’ short film (a snip below) and Tila Tequila’s sex tape.

How do you feel about this topic? How open are you about your sex life with friends?

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