Southern Folly

Perspectives of a Lady, Gentleman & Dane
Hannah Sheflyand

It has been a crazy few months since our vacation and the engagement and I thought it would be nice to share my process so far and the other excuses on why I have been so sporadic with posts since then.

Right away Brian and I agreed that we wanted something simple and relaxed. We quickly picked a date (9/12/15!), a venue for the ceremony and a venue for the reception. I found a dress fairly quickly, a rental company to work with and we organized our guest list seamlessly and sent save the dates. Brian was being a huge support and helped with all the big decisions.

Yet somehow I became the crazy bride to be, I spent weeks barely sleeping, and stressed over the smallest things, like whether we should use clear or white plates and whether we should have blue or white napkins (I know crazy right?)! I started getting frustrated because while I was stressing like crazy Brian had no preference on these little things and I could not understand why. After a few more weeks with tension of discussing anything wedding related without freaking each other out we did the smartest thing possible, we sat down and talked. We talked about all the exciting events ahead and what that means to each of us, but then we also talked about what was bothering each of us and how we can communicate better so that we can be back to our normal happy couple. After that it was so much easier to relax, talk to each other and most importantly remember that the only really important part of this whole wedding planning is we are getting MARRIED!

Now I make lists, I go down the lists when I have time and I try to check some things off when I can. If there is something that I feel would be important to Brian I make sure I go over with him as well, if not I try to be bold and decide on my own or get some friends opinions and then I let Brian know. This way we both are on the same page with the wedding but it is less stressful to make decisions for either one of us. Now things go so much more smoothly, I sleep normally and we are much happier and relaxed.

Have you gone through this issue with your fiance or husband?

If you are married, or getting married, what are your best tips that you can share?

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The location of our ceremony. I am so excited!

Hannah Sheflyand

I was holding on to this song for a while really wanting to share it but never knowing how to fully explain what this song and album mean to me. There would never be Music Monday posts if it wasn’t for this album, there truthfully would probably not be this website if not for it too. I was never really into music, I would listen to whatever was popular on the radio at the time, but that would be as far as I would go into being interested to a song or an artist. Things drastically changed mostly due to this album.

When I first started dating Brian he was on a break from school so we had a lot of time and energy to spend each afternoon running around and planning crazy dates and being up until all hours. Once his winter break ended and he started having classes after work it started to get a little tough for both of us to find ways of spending good quality time together but not having to drive somewhere far to do so.

One evening we decided to make our first dinner together and just hang out on the couch and relax. I am one who gets pretty uncomfortable with quiet pauses in conversation but Brian put on some music in the background and it made everything feel just perfect. When we were finished with dinner, Brian put Help Wanted Nights, by the Good Life, on his record player and we laid down and cuddled up and just relaxed. There was nothing to concentrate on other then each other and the music, it was such a simple yet beautiful way to spend an hour. That was when I knew I was falling in love with this amazing guy laying by my side.

Listening to something on vinyl compared to the radio or pandora does make a difference, some people say it has to do with sound quality (I truthfully cannot tell), I think it has to do with the fact that you have to actively listen to the music since it doesn’t just keep going and going. It made me start appreciating what was playing in the background and started my love for music again.

By this point Brian and I have probably over done it, we have hundred of records stored away in all the possible storage spots in the tiny studio apartment but I would not have it any other way. To this day whenever either of us has had an overwhelming day we just put on a record (usually the Good Life or Jason Isbell), cuddle up and just listen.

I hope you enjoyed my little story and this beautiful song. Have a fabulous Monday and a great week!

P.S.- Love you Brian!

Hannah Sheflyand

Brian and I often joke around on how it is acceptable to be grumpy once your a retired old person and that Brian is very excited to let loose and be able to do that. Yesterday he sent over this awesome comic by Wes & Tony from Amazing Super Powers that I could not stop laughing at because it is so a Brian moment to be.

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And an addition to Brian’s grumpy faces (with some Charlie love) below to hopefully add an extra smile to your week 🙂

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Brian McCarthy

As Hannah mentioned, the winter blues are here, and while she’s got some great ways of getting through (I particularly enjoy the baking), I prefer to indulge the dreary setting.  To me, there’s no better way to get through the blues than to put on a good album and listen to songs of heart break and suffering.  There’s something about hearing somebody else’s stories sung that allows me to let go of mine.  For today’s music Monday, I give you ‘Ladykiller’ by The Horrible Crowes, a song about having your woman stolen away from you by some younger, better looking guy.  If you’re feeling down I’d suggest listening to the whole album, Elsie.

Hannah Sheflyand

I think this is pretty common for northeasterners, but I am finally coming down with the blues. When it first starts getting colder in the fall I just look forward to Thanksgiving and then the holidays in December which makes time go by pretty quickly and the never ending cold and shorter days go unnoticed. Then January hits and every year I do my best to stay cheery. Getting engaged and starting on wedding planning helped this January fly by but February hit me hard.

I went to the blog world to find some solutions and overall it has helped a lot. I would love to share some of the tips and tricks that have helped me:

Playing Set (I am addicted and now even play on my phone)

Relaxing with some special hot chocolate

Some spa time in the shower

Basking in the glow of a Mood Light

Exercise! (If your not in the mood for anything intense, even some calm yoga breathing will make you feel 10x better)

Go out on a special date (Its Restaurant Week in NYC!)

Light up the room

My favorite: Bake and then bakesomemore (it will also warm up your apartment)!

How about you, what are some of your tips and tricks for getting through the winter?

Hannah Sheflyand

Did you watch the Oscars last night? We dont have cable, or even a tv, so I missed out but had been following as much as I could online. I was mesmerized by the performance with John Legend and Common. This song won Best Original Song and it is evident why.

Did you have a chance to watch this year? What did you think of all the musical performances?

My other favorites were Everything is Awesome by Tegan & Sara and then Lost Stars by Maroon 5.

Hannah Sheflyand

Do you feel like all of your interactions with friends and family have become a bunch of texts and emails? I did not even notice it until recently when I started needing help with wedding planning. Texts are great for quick messages or little reminders but I have started to really enjoy spending even just a few minutes catching up on the phone. I was enjoying these conversations more and more that I started looking into getting myself a little stationary so I can start writing letters and show those that are most important to me that I took the extra effort to write a note to them.

Then Brian and I started looking for wedding stationary and wow was I blown away by everything out there. I am pretty happy that both of us wanted to go with something fairly simple so picking the stationary went quickly and smoothly. However for myself the options are limitless and I cant decide.

Garden & Gun wrote a great article on the etiquette of stationary for both him and her and what should be sitting on your desk. I thought it was a great starter to help figure out what I should order for me, and maybe Brian too 🙂 Read more…

Hannah Sheflyand

Do any of you get tired of the constant email and facebook feeds filled with cute puppies and kittens? Sometimes the photos are a great little surprise and definitely cheer up the bored gloomy day causing me to be online browsing randomly rather then doing actual work. Sometimes its just too much and I wish there was something new to look at to cheer me up.

Then I came across Kevin Horan’s photography website, specifically his Chattel series. This photo series, of goats and sheep, is a remembrance of studio portraits back in the day, black and white with a gloomy serious tone.

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Hannah Sheflyand

How did your weekend go? I was sick through the whole thing and still sick, so I am huddled in bed drinking lots of hot tea hoping I heal quick.

I was really excited that after just posting about Jason Isbell, his wife and him just released a two single ep “Sea Songs“. I am in love all over. Take a listen and let me know what you think.

Have a happy healthy week 🙂