Southern Folly

Perspectives of a Lady, Gentleman & Dane
Hannah Sheflyand

I used to find Valentines day to be a drag and disliked the over priced consumerism (flowers double in price overnight)…. but I think I have become pretty romantic over time and now just relish that there is an extra occasion to spend time with loved ones. I hope your weekend goes smoothly whether you are on your own or not. Tonight, Brian and I are joining my parents to head to Brooklyn Fare Chef’s Table (which I am super duper excited about- have you ever been?), but I am also pretty under the weather so I am hoping the rest of the weekend requires no effort and instead lots of cuddle time and hot tea.

Some fun, love filled links from around the web to help keep you cheery this weekend:

A list of movies to binge watch

Easy desserts that are under 100 calories!

Great southern romance stories

Wish one of these cutedog dads would be my valentine

Some extra eye candy 😉

A defense for Valentines day

What are your plans for the weekend?

Hannah Sheflyand

Over the winter holidays I decided to read the 5 Love Languages (men’s version here) and had a little bit of mixed emotions over it. Have you heard about this book and the essential languages of love?

Words of Affirmation

Acts of Service

Receiving Gifts

Physical Touch

Quality Time

The idea is that there are many ways to express love to the other partner but usually each person has a primary love language that needs to be addressed to feel loved. Each person then has a “love tank” that needs to be filled with that love language.  It was quick to figure out our primary languages, mine for sure is Quality Time, Brian’s is definitely Physical Touch. Now whenever we have a long day at work and get home we kid around asking whether either Love Tank is full or needs some pumping 🙂
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Hannah Sheflyand

I can admit that I am awful with DIY projects; I love getting gifts and I love giving gifts, but I have no imagination and have very little patience for creating personal gifts for others. Luckily it is super easy to find amazing ideas and projects for gifts online 🙂

If I had any artistic skills I would love to work on one of these projects:

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Hannah Sheflyand

Being its the week of romance and love, lets talk about sex… more specifically bdsm and porn.

I was unsure if it would be a proper topic to discuss but I feel bdsm and porn has become less taboo for the everyday couple and that in my opinion is an awesome thing. I remember that going through college sex was an every day topic and no one was ashamed to discuss it at all; everything from hook ups, awkward positions, and silly laughable experiences were discussed over dinner, drinks or unproductive study sessions. Now as time has passed and relationships have become more serious, these conversations have almost come to a stand still. Is it because we feel too mature, too awkward because we know the friends partner, we have learned it all and there is nothing to discuss, or just embarrassment?

There has always been the option of secretly reading erotic romance novels, but once 50 Shades of Grey came out, things have changed. Yes its fake, yes there are many other books and writers that do a better job with writing this genre (some great suggestions here, here & here), but the topic of bdsm has been on New York Times best seller list for over 100 weeks and now will be on the big screen this weekend.

I understand that many feel porn is not proper, as a career for those in it (but don’t forget those who have risen from it such as David Duchovny or Sibel Kekilli) or for those watching it (which lets be honest everyone has at least taken a glance). I think this progress, in the media and through the general public, will help change that or at least get people opening up and keeping discussions going.

New York City is joining in on this new openness on sex and will be having their first ever Porn Film Festival later this month, “committed to bringing the best and most diverse body of work to NYC as a platform for both established and emerging talent.” The premier night will include Miley Cyrus’ short film (a snip below) and Tila Tequila’s sex tape.

How do you feel about this topic? How open are you about your sex life with friends?

Hannah Sheflyand

Sorry for the big delays between posts, it has been a crazy time since New Years. I am hoping over the next few weeks things will calm down and I will be able to work more on this blog. I really enjoy it, as its a way for me to be always learning something new, and it is a great way to focus and relax.

Since Valentines day is so close I thought it would be fun to have the week focus on flowers, gifts and just overall love, whether for others or just for yourself. Over the weekend Brian and I were really excited to be able to see Jason Isbell in concert in New York (he is one of our favorite country/rock singers and I have written many posts for Music Monday on him because I just love love love his songs). We were extra lucky because Jason Isbell’s wife, Amanda Shires, came to join on stage for a few duets. Both of them were as amazing live, as I thought they would be, but by far the favorite through the whole audience was Cover Me Up and I thought it was perfect for a love filled week.

Did you have a listen? Does this song not send goosebumps up your arms?

How was your weekend? Excited for Valentines day or dreading the whole thing and excited for the week to be over?

Hannah Sheflyand

I am not sure if you have noticed, but Brian has a grumpy look all the time when it comes to photos (otherwise he is the opposite of a grump). We were looking through photographs over the weekend, just to relax and reminisce, and noticed that even if Brian was having a fabulous time he always has the grumpy face. Brian says that I don’t smile enough for photos, because of the Russian in me, but I finally have a compilation of photos as proof that he is the one that needs to smile more.


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IMG_0004We enjoyed a few laughs looking through all these and Brian has given me full permission to embarrass him for this post.

Do you have a signature look or side for photos? I just smile as much as I can whenever I see a camera looking my way.

Hannah Sheflyand

I am motivated to make this week as productive and cheerful and stress free as possible. I heard this song this morning and think its the perfect way to start a Monday. Its cheerful, catchy and inspiring in many ways. Just listening to this song made me rush to the computer to download her whole, Sing to the Moon, album.

Take a listen! Does it not make you have a rush of energy to complete the daunting task waiting for you?

Hannah Sheflyand

If I could summarize my week in one photo it would be:

IMG_0156A mix of work, planning, family, weather and everything else makes me wish that each day this week had 28 hours instead of 24, but am super happy it is Friday and the weekend is almost here.  I apologize for the lack of posts this week and promise it will be back to normal now that our schedules are calming down.

Brian and I found that a good way to calm down at the end of the day is to drink some tea and spend some time, even if its just for a few minutes before we pass out, to check in on each other. I cant speak for him, but I have found that even a few minutes of talking about our day, the random conversations we have had with others, cute animal photos we saw online, or silly things Charlie has done recently, brings me back to the reality that the stress will pass and I am lucky that I have a great guy that lends a listening ear.

How has your week been? Any great tips for relaxing under stress…

Hannah Sheflyand

We are heading to my mothers house upstate for the weekend, which is conveniently right next to Belleayre Mountain. I learned to ski and snowboard there, and even though its is smaller then Hunter or Windham nearby, I love that this place is quieter. We are mostly going up for a lot of wedding planning but I am hoping to maybe have some time to get back on my snowboard.

I am no where near being an expert but after almost 10 yrs of snowboarding I thought I might be ready to start learning tricks, until I looked it up and saw this:





SebToots_Swiss2012_FrodePhoto_MG_4917I think I am going to skip on the big tricks and maybe start with small goals…

snowboard-trickAre you a snowboarder or skier? Any tips on starting out with tricks?

What are your plans for the weekend, staying bundled up or going out to play?


For my skier readers- I dont want you to think that they cant pull off awesome tricks too!

Hannah Sheflyand

The minute I am home I am running to get under my blankets and trying to warm up. No matter how many layers of clothing I wear I feel the only way I really warm up is under many layers of blankets.

This does not mean I don’t enjoy browsing those next possible layers of clothes to wear. My favorites this winter:


Endless Shirt, $78, I love baggy shirts and like how long and lean it looks.


Cashmere Tunic, $298, this is great for a pop of color in the gloomy winter, and warm to boot. Maybe if it goes on sale it can end up in my closet 🙂


Cashmere Pocket Hoodie, $288, the tomboy in me really loves this hoodie, Brians voice in me says its not the most flattering, but probably very warm and comfy which is why I would still throw it in my sweater collection.

Any awesome new finds that were added to your closet recently? I would love to hear.

Some of my want lists in the past here, here, here and here!