It has been a crazy few months since our vacation and the engagement and I thought it would be nice to share my process so far and the other excuses on why I have been so sporadic with posts since then.
Right away Brian and I agreed that we wanted something simple and relaxed. We quickly picked a date (9/12/15!), a venue for the ceremony and a venue for the reception. I found a dress fairly quickly, a rental company to work with and we organized our guest list seamlessly and sent save the dates. Brian was being a huge support and helped with all the big decisions.
Yet somehow I became the crazy bride to be, I spent weeks barely sleeping, and stressed over the smallest things, like whether we should use clear or white plates and whether we should have blue or white napkins (I know crazy right?)! I started getting frustrated because while I was stressing like crazy Brian had no preference on these little things and I could not understand why. After a few more weeks with tension of discussing anything wedding related without freaking each other out we did the smartest thing possible, we sat down and talked. We talked about all the exciting events ahead and what that means to each of us, but then we also talked about what was bothering each of us and how we can communicate better so that we can be back to our normal happy couple. After that it was so much easier to relax, talk to each other and most importantly remember that the only really important part of this whole wedding planning is we are getting MARRIED!
Now I make lists, I go down the lists when I have time and I try to check some things off when I can. If there is something that I feel would be important to Brian I make sure I go over with him as well, if not I try to be bold and decide on my own or get some friends opinions and then I let Brian know. This way we both are on the same page with the wedding but it is less stressful to make decisions for either one of us. Now things go so much more smoothly, I sleep normally and we are much happier and relaxed.
Have you gone through this issue with your fiance or husband?
If you are married, or getting married, what are your best tips that you can share?